Over the years we have had the opportunity to speak with countless brides and grooms on the lead up to their wedding day and we have come to recognise some of ‘silent worries’ than can make them lose sleep at night. You know the things I’m talking about, the drunken uncle, the invite etiquette, the seating arrangements, the speech….. the list goes on. These are common worries amongst brides and grooms, however, sometimes we are a little reluctant to speak about these concerns for fear of offending someone important to us. Below you will read some of the most common worries we have come to recognise and our tips on how you can combat these issues.
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So let’s get started then…
Is it a bit rude to throw ourselves an engagement party? Should someone else host it for us?
Not at all! This is your celebration, so don’t worry about celebrating that in the way you feel most comfortable. Now if a family member or friend has suggested hosting it for you, by all means jump at this opportunity and accept their gracious offer. However, if you find that no one has offered and you would really like to throw a party to celebrate, you should absolutely go for it! Go big and throw yourselves a party to end all parties!
I want a small intimate wedding, but the in-laws have other ideas! I suppose I better go with what the family wants?
This is another common concern we hear about a lot. It is time for you to remember whose day this is……you and your new bride or groom. In-laws will have their input as will your own family no doubt, however, this should not in any way compromise the plans you want for your big day. When the day comes around, the family will recognise that it’s the two of you who matter most and extended family or friends will be happy to congratulate you at a later date. A compromise could be reached by hosting an intimate ceremony on one day with close family and friends and perhaps celebrating with a larger circle at a date in the not too distant future.
The best man is a great guy, but sometimes he likes to overindulge. I’m worried that the speech will be inappropriate!
This is a concern for many brides and grooms. The fear that the best man may have a few too many drinks before the speeches are made. Fret not… it’s actually very rare that this happens! Most best men will fully realise the importance of the big day and their role in making sure it runs as smoothly as possible. If you are really concerned, you could maybe drop a few hints or have someone take him aside for a quiet word.
We have a tight budget for the reception, is it okay to invite people without including a +1?
Yes of course this is fine. If you arrange your seating plan carefully you can seat these guests with others who are attending by themselves. You may find that some guests will ask you directly if they can bring someone with them, if so, feel free to explain that you are keeping the number to a minimum but they are very welcome to bring them to the reception a little later in the evening when the meals and speeches have ended.
If you have any concerns that you are a bit too embarrassed or worried to address directly with a friend or family member, feel free to pop us a message and we will include it in our next blog post as a general anonymous concern. It may be the ideal way to get your message across without having to ever broach the subject!
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