In this article we’re going to talk a little bit about wedding invite etiquette and explain the old fashioned do’s and don’t that accompany the sending of your wedding invitations. Whether you’re inviting your guests via email, traditional post or through social media, this handy guide should assist you with wording, sensitive issues and any other questions you may have.
It’s important to remember that there are no hard and fast rules, so if you fancy changing it up a bit that’s your prerogative!
Should I send ‘Save the Date’ Cards?
General rule of thumb states that ‘Save the Date’ cards are only necessary if you are planning a wedding abroad or are inviting guests who need to travel long distances. If you’re getting married here in Ireland where most of your guests live, then sending just invites to your guests is perfectly fine. Feel free to send an email or make a phone call in place of ‘Save the Date’ cards!
When should we send the Wedding Invites?
In order to give your guests plenty of time to organise time off work or secure childcare, it’s a good idea to give them as much notice as possible. We would recommend sending invites a minimum of 8 weeks before your big day to avoid any disappointment.
How should we Address Invitees?
The general rule of thumb is that you should address invitees as you would address them in person. So, if there’s someone in your life that you always address as Mrs. X or Mr. Y, then it’s probably best to address them this way in your invite. If you’re on less formal terms with close friends then first names are absolutely fine.
We won’t be Inviting Children to the Wedding; can I state this on the Invite?
If you’re planning an adults only wedding, there should be no need to state ‘no children’ on the invite. Simply address the invite to the adult couple only. You may receive a few phone calls afterwards to ask if couples can bring their kids, that is the time to make clear that the event is adults only.
What about the RSVP Date?
Ask guests to respond to your invite by a specific date. Generally, one month before the wedding should give you ample time to finalise numbers.
Extra Information to Include on your Invitations:
Dress Code: If you have decided to go for a black tie affair or have a specific request for the guest’s attire, this should be noted clearly on the invitation.
Response Cards: Consider including a response card with your invite. This will encourage guests to reply earlier and less chasing will be needed when you’re finalising numbers.
Directions: If you’re getting married out of town, it’s always helpful to include directions to the venue for your guests.
• The name of you and your intended.
• The venue for the ceremony.
• Time of ceremony.
• The venue for the reception.
• If you’re sending ‘reception only’ invites, you should attend a time for guests to arrive at the venue.
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