In this wedding blog post we are offering some tips and advice on overcoming the nerves before your Wedding Speech, here at Drangan Video we have attended our fair share of weddings in Tipperary, Kilkenny and many other counties up and down the country, so its fair to say that we have heard more wedding speeches than than your average Joe.
In 2013 our beautiful daughter celebrated her wedding in Langton House Hotel in Kilkenny it was a day that my wife and myself will never forget, we were looking forward to the day for so long, one of my father of the bride duties was to stand up and deliver a speech, it was an honor to stand up and talk. Traditionally, the first speaker at an Irish wedding is indeed the Father of the Bride, was I nervous ? the answer is yes !!
Delivering a speech is never an easy task, particularly if you’re not comfortable with public speaking. In this blog post we are going to explore some tips that we believe will ease your nerves and assist with the preparations. Whether you’re delivering a speech as the Best Man, the Bride, Groom or Parent, these tips will help you to remain calm, cover all the important points and leave your audience feeling all warm and fuzzy!
Most wedding speeches will be highly anticipated by all guests at the wedding, so it’s important that you put real time and effort into delivering a speech that covers all of the most important points.
Writing the Wedding Speech
Always speak aloud before you start writing! This may seem a bit strange, but once you have spoken the words out loud, you begin to formulate other ideas in a way that flows more naturally. This practice will also assist with calming any nerves you may be experiencing.
Practice your Breathing
Really? Yes, breathing comes naturally we know that, but keeping your breathing relaxed and steady during the delivery of your speech, will allow you to remain calm and speak without stuttering or getting panicked.
Ask a Friend to be your Ears
Enlist the help of a good friend to sit and listen to your speech. Choose someone who isn’t afraid to give you honest feedback, someone who will boost your confidence and give you the encouragement you need.
Make Note Cards
It’s not always necessary to write down your speech word for word, you will want to sound natural on the day and perhaps adlib a bit from time to time. Word cards with bullet points that will steer you in the right direction will work wonders. Here are some of the points you can list on your notes:
• Who to thank
• Names of everyone at the top table
• ‘ Tell the story about……’
Avoid too much Alcohol or Caffeine before the Speech
As tempting as it may be to indulge in some dutch courage before the speeches, it’s probably a better idea to wait until the speech has been delivered before you partake of any alcohol. Try to steer clear from too much caffeine as well, as this can bring on feelings of anxiety if you’re already feeling a little nervous.
Be Assured you are Surrounded by Friends
If you start to feel a bit anxious or nervous, know that you are surrounded by friends and family that know and love you. They don’t mind if you stumble on your words a bit or seem a bit nervous. Remember that you have probably spoken to everyone in this room already at some stage, so there are no strangers here or people that judge you.
Nerves are Good
Nerves are there to remind us that we are doing something important. Surely that’s a good thing right? All you need to do is take that first leap and the rest of the speech will follow with ease. The adrenalin you get from that first round of applause or shriek of laughter will leave you feeling full of confidence.
Practice, Practice, Practice
This should go without saying, but you would be surprised at the amount of people who don’t take this advice. Practice will help you to deliver a polished speech with ease and clarity, the more you practice, the more accomplished your delivery will become.
If you are interested in having your big day filmed and would like to learn more about our wedding video packages, please get in touch with Eamon today and he will answer any questions you may have. Whether you are getting married in Tipperary, Kilkenny, Waterford, Dublin or Galway, we will be happy to travel to your destination to capture your big day.
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